John Gottman is an American psychologist who has studied human relationships for decades. He describes 4 relationship styles : Emotion Coaching Style (serve and return or responsive), Emotion Dismissing Style (often motivated by a desire to fix eg don’t worry, you’ll be fine), Emotion Disapproving Style (ofen motivated by a desire to control or regain power) and Laissez Faire or Permissive Style.
John Gottman’s Emotion Coaching is about building and enriching relationships, focusing on connecting and delaying problem solving until you’ve talked about your feelings.
Seeing the brain as a social organ dependent upon relationships with other people and understanding how our brains develop early on in our lives helps us all understand our emotions.
All Emotions are OK but not all behaviours are OK
Paul Ekman has studied emotions and facial experiences across many cultures and concluded that human emotions are universal. Everything we see, feel, touch, and taste (i.e., ‘experience’) passes through the emotional part of our brain (how we feel) and the thinking part of our brain (how we respond to the feeling). He describes seven core emotions that all humans experience. Anger, Sadness, Disgust, Surprise, Fear, Contempt and Joy.
You might find it useful to take a look at the video clips below created by The Human Improvement Project.